Applying Mel Robbins’ “The Let Them Theory” to Digital Spaces
Original photo by Katie Lam
Let me just start off by saying this—I am the worst reader. In fact, I haven’t finished a full chapter book in over seven years (I’m sorry, reading fanatics, I really can’t seem to get excited about reading).
But then, one day while wandering around downtown Vancouver, I somehow ended up inside a bookstore and stumbled on a book that’s been gaining traction lately—The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.
So, what’s the book about? Mel Robbins dives into how to deal with the things and people in our lives that we can’t control, how to set boundaries, and how to protect our peace in a world that’s often noisy and overwhelming. It’s about letting go of the stuff that drags us down and focusing on what we can control.
I didn’t exactly start reading the book (Can’t break the no-reading streak you feel?), but I did listen to a few of Mel’s podcasts and interviews. And honestly? They opened my eyes.
When it comes to our online world, there’s a lot of good stuff happening. We get to celebrate moments in our lives, connect with friends, and discover communities through social media. But there’s also a negative side alluding to gossip, indirect hurt, and toxic culture that creeps in and wears on us. It’s different for everyone, but if you’ve ever felt down or overwhelmed by online drama or just the pressure of social media, you’re not alone.
Digital empathy… just treating the people behind the screens with a bit more honesty, kindness, and understanding. It’s about making a real effort to create healthier online spaces. It’s not about ignoring the tough stuff or pretending everything’s perfect, but about knowing that our words and actions, whether online or offline, actually affect others. So, why not choose to lift each other up instead of bringing each other down?
Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory connects with this perfectly. It reminds us to protect our peace by setting boundaries—not just in real life but in digital life too. We don’t have to engage in online arguments or scroll through every stressful post. We can decide what to let in and what to let go.
This ties directly into digital wellness. It’s not just about screen time limits or apps to block distractions. It’s about the quality of our online experiences and the culture we create. When we choose empathy and honesty and when we build up instead of break down, our digital spaces become more positive.
So, even though I’m still not a big reader, diving into these ideas through podcasts and interviews has helped me rethink how I show up online. It's important to step back from negativity, set boundaries, and choose kindness. Not only do you deserve some peace, but maybe it’ll make someone's day if they came across a little bit of that too.
